Islam Question and Answer - What should the woman who is revocably divorced avoid and what should she avoid if she is irrevocably divorced?

What should the woman who is revocably divorced avoid and what should she avoid if she is irrevocably divorced?

I have just divorced my Husband and was wanting to know the exact rights that I have during my 3 months of waiting...So does this mean I can not even talk to men Online and would it be ok if my mom and dads friend to come and pick me up to take me back home..

 

Praise be to Allaah.

A woman does
not have the right to divorce her husband by talaaq. Talaaq can only be
issued by the husband. The words in the Qur’aan which speak of issues and
ruling of divorce (talaaq) are addressed to husbands, not to wives. Allaah
says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And when
you have divorced women and they have fulfilled the term of their prescribed
period, either take them back on reasonable basis or set them free on
reasonable basis”

[al-Baqarah 2:231] 

“There is
no sin on you, if you divorce women while yet you have not touched (had
sexual relation with) them, nor appointed unto them their Mahr (bridal-money
given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage)”

[al-Baqarah 2:236] 

“O you
who believe! When you marry believing women, and then divorce them before
you have sexual intercourse with them, no ‘Iddah [divorce prescribed period]
have you to count in respect of them”

[al-Ahzaab 33:49]

 “O
Prophet! When you divorce women, divorce them at their ‘Iddah (prescribed
periods) and count (accurately) their ‘Iddah (periods). And fear Allaah your
Lord (O Muslims)”

[al-Talaaq 65:1] 

It was
narrated that Ibn 'Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“(The right of divorce) belongs to the one who takes hold of the calf [i.e.,
her husband].” 

Narrated by
Ibn Maajah (2081), classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel
(7/108). 

When a
husband leaves his wife and she gives him a sum of money in return for that,
this is called khula’. This means that the wife frees herself from her
husband by returning the mahr or whatever the husband asks for, then he
leaves her if he wants to. This is an annulment of the marriage, not a
divorce (talaaq). In this case the woman’s ‘iddah is one menstrual cycle. 

This has
already been discussed in the answer to question no.
14569. 

Secondly: 

When khula’
is carried out, she becomes a non-mahram to her husband immediately, and it
is not permissible for him to be alone with her, and he has no right to take
her back, except with a new marriage contract and a new dowry. 

When the
‘iddah – which is one menstrual cycle, or when she gives birth if she is
pregnant – is over, it is permissible for her to marry whomever she wants,
in accordance with the shar’i conditions of having a wali (guardian) and two
witnesses of good character. 

But if the
husband has divorced her with a first or second talaaq, it is not
permissible for her to go out of her house during her ‘iddah, and it is not
permissible for him to throw her out until her ‘iddah is over, whereupon she
becomes a non-mahram for him. The reason for that is that perhaps he may
decide to take her back, which is what Islam encourages. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“And turn
them not out of their (husband’s) homes nor shall they (themselves) leave,
except in case they are guilty of some open illegal sexual intercourse. And
those are the set limits of Allaah. And whosoever transgresses the set
limits of Allaah, then indeed he has wronged himself. You (the one who
divorces his wife) know not it may be that Allaah will afterward bring some
new thing to pass (i.e. to return her back to you if that was the first or
second divorce)”

[al-Talaaq 65:1] 

During her
‘iddah, it is permissible for her to uncover in front of her husband and
adorn herself for him, and for him to speak to her and be alone with her,
but he does not have the right to have intercourse with her until after he
has taken her back, or he has intercourse with her with the intention of
taking her back. 

If the
husband has divorced his wife with the last of three talaaqs, or he has
divorced her twice or once and her ‘iddah has ended, then she becomes a
non-mahram for him and it is not permissible for him to be alone with her,
to touch her or to look at her. 

This has
been stated in the answer to question no.
21413 and
36548. 

In the
answer to question no. 12667 we have explained all types of ‘iddah. 

It should be
noted that the ‘iddah of a woman divorced by talaaq who menstruates is three
menstrual cycles, not three months. Three months is the ‘iddah for a minor
who does not menstruate, or an older woman who no longer menstruates. You
will find more information in the answer referred to. 

Thirdly: 

It is not
permissible for a woman to go out with non-mahram men or to speak to them
over the internet. The evidence for that and the fatwas of the scholars have
been quoted in the answers to questions no.
34841,
6453 and
10221. 

Based on
this, a woman is not forbidden to wear adornment, perfume, jewellery and
other things that are forbidden to the woman who is observing ‘iddah after
the death of her husband. Rather what is forbidden to her during the ‘iddah
of a revocable divorce is going out of her husband’s house. Going out with
men and speaking to them is forbidden in all cases. 

And Allaah
knows best.

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